For various reasons I'm usually the "go-to" guy among my close friends when it comes to finding dates. I tend to dispense advice whether wanted or not, because usually I feel that it's the lonely person's fault for not being more aggressive or receptive to obvious possibilities. Truth be told, unless you truly live in extreme isolation, there are bound to be single people in your immediate area. Quit thinking in terms of "the perfect scenario" and take advantage of whatever situations you can. For instance, if you attend church, try talking to the single women there. Also, talk to the older women--the "grandma" types--get in good with them and they may be able to hook you up with their available niece, daughter, sister, etc.

Consider a library. Many people see the library as a place that has books. However, it also a place that has ideal women in large quantities (i.e., the intelligent, frugal and often attractive type). And how natural to see such a girl on a bench reading--"Hi, there, what are you reading? Looks interesting!" I can't tell you how often this exact scenario led to great things for me. Indeed, when I was a student, I could find attractive women to talk to all over campus. I remember getting a date with what ended up being a long term relationship--just by noticing a pretty girl walking to her next class. I asked her if she liked live music; she said yes; I invited her to a concert; she said she'd try to show up (it was a free gig from a local band). She did--and things went very well after that, let me assure you.

Of course, this approach can sometimes lead you to unpleasantness. Frankly, a few girls lack any basic tact and may react negatively or even offensively. I've never been slapped or anything, but you might see them ignore you completely, tell you to go away, turn around and walk off, or even try to sick their boyfriends on you. Again, I've never been assaulted or anything remotely like that, but then again there's no reason to be if you're polite and can take a hint. Furthermore, I was actually happy when this happened, because if a girl is really that insecure, paranoid, or just plain nuts, I want to know about it right away--rather than get emotionally or financially invested. Let me stress that these girls are RARE. Typical girls who aren't interested will gently let you know they have a boyfriend, husband, etc., or will politely disengage. Others might suddenly remember they have somewhere to be, have to make a call, etc. That's the typical "rejection," and frankly if it bothers a guy that badly he needs a thicker skin!! :P

So, there I go again, I just can't help but give advice on this damn topic!!!